Wife left husband 1 yrs and 8 months back and not willing to return
5 years ago
Hello All,
I need a help with a valuable suggestion
I’ve been married for past 8 years, my wife’s family is dominating with a lawyer father, police uncle, doctor grandpa background. We were blessed with a baby girl 4 years back, but my wife never brought her to Bangalore, baby has been with my in-laws in Kakinada (Andhra Pradesh, AP) so we used to up and down to see her every quarter. we used to have wear and tear, when ever there’s any quarrel immediately my wife alerts her mom so slowly it created major differences and she left to her hometown, few months back one fine evening she called & said she got a job in Tirupati and need house hold items, so she came with packers and movers, threatened me and taken away all the house hold items since then she never returned. its been past 1 yrs. and 8 months we reached their family multiple ways, but they have never responded amicably. Finally, 2 months back they agreed, arranged a meeting with my wife but she became even more stubborn in saying that she’s NOT interested to live with me anymore, if we force she threatened like will suicide. I’ve never hurt her with any intention, its only her negative attitude and her very supporting family lead us to this situation. I’ve not taken single paisa dowry, I’ve bought a car and we went on multiple trips, I used to take her to all new Telugu movies, I used to gift her BDays, every week we used to go restaurants, for baby also I used to buy many toys/cloths and sent through online or personally. But still she doesn’t know what she wants. I live in Bangalore, wife lives in Tirupati, Baby is in Kakinada. Now, they are neither encouraging for any open discussions nor for settlements, they are not giving my wife’s address as well. She has blocked my number, blocked whatsapp, blocked facebook so no communication at all so what should I do?
Deepak Yashwantrao Bade
Responded 5 years ago
Sivashankar reddy
Replied 5 years ago
To protect my self in the sense? in one or other contacts, we are trying to reach them
so there's no fault from our side.
We are keeping our best efforts, their parents telling if she wants to go then we dont have any problem
am not able to decide what to do? If I dont put any case will it affect me in any how??
Rajender Prasad
Responded 5 years ago
Sivashankar reddy
Replied 5 years ago
Sir, I heard 99% of RCR cases end up with Divorce because of various issues
so that's why am scared madam, it affects my baby's future.. but on the other hand they are just dragging the matter and not concluding anything but they also told they are trying to convince my wife but she's not agreeing.. we not able to decide anything Sir :(
Sayaree Ganguly
Responded 5 years ago
You can file a suit under the restitution of conjugal rights against your wife , at the same time you should also file a general diary against your wife for giving such suicidal threats just to keep yourself on the safe side.
Sivashankar reddy
Replied 5 years ago
Thank Madam! if I don't file RCR and just will keep waiting, any future problems I get? can they file any case against me? with some false allegations
Sayaree Ganguly
Replied 5 years ago
of course they can if they want to.
Sivashankar reddy
Replied 5 years ago
Mam, I heard 99% of RCR cases end up with Divorce because of various issues
so that's why am scared madam, it affects my baby's future.. but on the other hand they are just dragging the matter and not concluding anything but they also told they are trying to convince my wife but she's not agreeing.. but not able to decide anything madam.
Rameshwar Dadhe
Responded 5 years ago
Sivashankar reddy
Replied 5 years ago
We tried to reach them in many ways but its still bouncing.. their parents looks ok but my wife is adamant. no one is able to control her. I am not sure when she will realize.
Rameshwar Dadhe
Replied 5 years ago
In this situation u should approach to the court for filling RCR petition
Sivashankar reddy
Replied 5 years ago
Thank Sir! if I don't file RCR and just will keep waiting, any future problems I get? can they file any case against me? with some false allegations
Rameshwar Dadhe
Replied 5 years ago
Why not ?
Do you like to eat the cake or count the holes in it?
If you want to eat the cake...then please do as I and other Advocates have already stated.
First file the RCR. In any case you it has to be settled in the Court of Law.Divorce is the only solution your wife is looking at it although she has not stated in so many words.
For other questions talk to a local lawyer who will explain you in local language.
Shanti Ranjan Behera,
Advocate
There is a saying in English " One flower does not make a garland". You have not mentioned the educational back ground of your wife .She also lost 8 years of her working life.The baby is 4 years old and she has to go to a good school.Taking all these things in to consideration talk to your wife directly or through a friend which could be possible.After talking to her, you take the decision.
1.If the problem is resolved it is fine.Otherwise file a case for RCR.
2.Please remember no body is above law.If you are right, your lawyer Father in law can not do anything.
Shanti Ranjan Behera, Advocate
Sivashankar reddy
Replied 5 years ago
Respected Sir,
I agree with you, I did my MCA and after marriage she has completed her MTech.
I tried to reach my wife in all possibilities but she's not listening to any one, last time when we met with my family members she raised only 2 points
1. Not spending more money, I tried my best but keeping the software job volatility in mind I have saved accordingly also for future.
2. Needs more love, she's the only women in my life, all my love/affection is towards her only.
I agreed to support her in all possibilities but still she's not agreeing to live with me, she says she’s happy individually and her parents are backing up her. Also, she said that I’ve stayed with u for 8 yrs so you also live for 8 yrs after that we will see what happens. my baby going to a school in in-laws’ hometown itself... I miss my baby and wife. But I heard from their family members that backend all Police (SP) mama is running the story and he usually won’t pick our call. Last time when we met her police mama he’s talking about 498 etc.,
Reg. RCR - I am bit scared, I heard most of the RCR cases end up with divorce
do you see any chances of amicability success rate in it?
1. Can she put a transfer petition to her hometown (Kakinada)?
2. I heard she can claim even litigation expenses (u/s 24 HMA) also from me?
so, if I don't put RCR then what are the consequences I might face please? and If I put RCR what are the advantages/disadvantages please?
they are just keep delaying it no action. Please help, thanks.
ARPIT BATRA
Responded 5 years ago
You just file some cases against her like R C R and child custody to protect yourself
Rameshwar Dadhe
Responded 5 years ago
Sivashankar reddy
Replied 5 years ago
thanks Sir for prompt reply! I am bit scared, I heard most of the RCR cases end up with divorce do you see any chances of amicability success rate in it? keeping their influence (lawyer father + Police uncle in mind) if we file RCR in Bangalore 1. can she put a transfer petition to her hometown (Kakinada)? 2. I heard she can claim even litigation expenses (u/s 24 HMA) also from me? so if I don't put RCR then what are the consequences I might face please? and If I put RCR what are the advantages/disadvantages please? they are just keep delaying it no action..Please help, thanks..
Vishwabandhu
Responded 5 years ago
Sivashankar reddy
Replied 5 years ago
thanks Sir for prompt reply!
I am bit scared, I heard most of the RCR cases end up with divorce
do you see any chances of amicability success rate in it?
keeping their influence (lawyer father + Police uncle in mind) if we file RCR in Bangalore
1. can she put a transfer petition to her hometown (Kakinada)?
2. I heard she can claim even litigation expenses (u/s 24 HMA) also from me?
so if I don't put RCR then what are the consequences I might face please? and If I put RCR what are the advantages/disadvantages please?
they are just keep delaying it no action..Please help, thanks..
Vishwabandhu
Replied 5 years ago
Dear Client RCR petitions r decided very soon. Now as she is earning so u will not have to pay any thing.
Her relatives and being advocate and police will not affect your case.
Dear client as per your story your wife and her relatives seem to be wishing for divorce. Only u r much interested to maintain this relationship, but u can not do till the other party is not wishing. So file RCR and wait and all will be clear.
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